Sex Overload in the Media today

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Note: All of the opinions are my own. I am respectful of everyone’s views on this topic

Have you noticed how much sex there is in the media? Last night, while I was eating ice cream   after a long day, there was a commercial for a new movie called Sex Tape. I’m sorry, what? The media is so obsessed with sex that they are actually making a movie about a couple, making a sex tape? Why? In fact, why all the sex in the media? I don’t get the obsession nor the message of “You HAVE to have sex. If you’re not, you’re a loser”.

I am a virgin and I am saving myself for marriage. Honestly, I don’t get the need of having sex, unless you actually have known your boyfriend/girlfriend for a long time. If two people just met after a day, week, or month etc., and are already having it, I think that’s way too soon. You should have sex with someone you trust and actually know. What if your sexual partner was actually    using you for sex and broke up with you right after? Or what if you sexted him/her and he/she   send the photos to his/her friends? And most of all, what if you made a baby with your partner and you hardly know him or her? If you’re just having a sex for the heck of sex or lusting for someone, then sex is meaningless.

According to my Christian faith, you have sex with your married partner. It is described as very pure and beautiful, and intimate and very close to express your love for each other. I know what you’re thinking. If you don’t want to wait until marriage, just make sure you actually know the person. You should wait until marriage, but I won’t judge if you do not wait.

How is the media, ruining the concept of sex? In some television shows that I watch, there are one night stands or constant sex with people they just met. It gives out the message that this is how sex is supposed to be like. Just have sex with anyone you want, anytime you want. As the naive person I am, this message honestly just confuses me, despite what my religion says. Is this how sex suppose to work?

I’m going to use ABC Family’s new show, Young and Hungry as an example. I watch Pretty Little Liars and Switched at Birth, so I’ve seen lots of trailers of this show. And from what I’ve seen, Emily Osment’s character just got hired by an entrepreneur. But, the entrepreneur’s girlfriend dumps him. And to make it all better, the main character has sex with the guy. First of all, story-wise, where did that even come from? Did they had a sexual attraction to each other, at first? From other clips that I watch with the commercials, it looks like they spend the rest of the episode, talking about it. Does this lead to anywhere in the series? Did the girl get pregnant because of it? Do they go out afterwards? (I’m guessing yes.) Like what is the point of the sex? Second, morally wise, why? Why did they have sex with each other, especially that they hardly know each other? What’s the point of them, having sex? This does give the wrong message to people, especially the target audience in general: Sex is the answer to all of theproblems. Well, guess what? No, it isn’t.

And when I mean sex, I only don’t mean the actual thing. I also mean the portrayal of men and women, especially women. The portrayal of women, in particular, is disgusting. In many times, especially through movies, TV shows, commercials, and magazines such as Playboy and Vanity Fair), women are portrayed as sex objects. You normally see these women in either short, cleavage-showing outfits or in bikinis. When this is in TV shows and movies, the men characters would ogle or/and lust after them. And sometimes, it does ends with sex. Why? Because according to media, women are only made to serve men and their sexual desires. Men also get the same treatment as women, especially in movies and TV shows about bachelorette parties. We see men half-naked with tight underpants while the women characters ogle them. This gives both genders some of the worst messages: We are made to satisfy each other’s sexual desires, which is not true. While we are made to make more people with sex, we are created to work with other people and make friends with them, and be nice and respectful of each other. We are also made to make our societies strong with goodness and wisdom. Hollywood’s society is messed up for numerous of reasons, but it is still always glamorize by the media. The general message of “You can have sex with anyone, anytime you want” is while definitely not the worst reason, but is harmful to society today.  

Finally, what all of you are thinking might be, “This girl is stupid. She says we can’t have sex at all and have fun with it.” No, that’s not what I’m saying. Yes, have sex and have fun with it. And again, I respect your views. So, if you have sex with a random person, I don’t care. Why would I care? It’s none of my business. And you are still a good person. What I am saying to everyone is to have sex responsibly with a suggestion to wait until marriage if you can.  And you are also thinking, “This girl is so stupid. She is a virgin and she only believes in sex until marriage because of her stupid religion. She knows nothing about sex.” Like I said in the beginning, this is only a opinion that I have. Obviously, I am not a pro in sex. Honestly, I feel awkward, talking about this. But just because I am saving myself, it doesn’t mean that I’m not allowed to talk about it. I’m not shaming sex in any way. I am shaming Hollywood and its message that both are ruining the meaning of sex. I am encouraging everyone to stop listening to Hollywood’s message on sex and have sex when you are actually ready. If you had not have sex, there is nothing wrong with you. There is no rush in having sex. Take your time. It will happen when it happens, and hopefully with the right person. Just be patient

Suggested Reading/Citation:

Serdar, Kathy. “Female Body Image and the Mass Media: Perspectives on How Women Internalize the Ideal Beauty Standard.” . Westminster College, n.d. Web. 20 June 2014. <…&detail=4475&content=4795&gt;.


When will these school shootings end?

Look at the list of the school shootings from this year and try to see something wrong with it (minus the ethics and morals):

I hope you noticed it because what is wrong is perfectly clear. There has been school shootings nearly every week this year. Every 1-2 weeks. And it’s only June. I am baffled as you are. I thought to myself this past week, “It seems like there’s a shooting every week this year.” I’m surprised that my feeling was true when I read that list.

When the shooting on December 14, 2012 happened with 20 little kids and 6 adults being dead, I immediately thought, “This is going to cause so much more shootings now because some evil person will want fame”. Some people rebuffed that, saying that I was paranoid. The sad thing was they were wrong and I was right. Last year, in 2013, there were 28 school shootings, with even some taking on the same day. This year, there has been 37

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school shootings (Yes, I yelled “HOLY CRAP” too). Again, it is only June. If there will be a school shooting every week in the first half of the 2014-2015 school year, there could be around 74 school shootings alone in 2014. This is very scary.

How do these shootings go? Sadly, the majority (not all of them) could be easily mistaken as overly-used story lines in entertainment today. The cliche that actually takes place in the real world? Well, there is a white (normally now), teenage male who has some mental illness like autism and aspergers. At school, he is an awkward, shy loner. At home, he is a “nice, noble gentlemen” to his neighbors, adults, and grandparents. But to his parents and his siblings? He is such a deranged time bomb who has like 50 guns and weapons that he will need to see counseling. Eventually, one day, he can’t take it anymore. He doesn’t take his meds and he doesn’t see the counselor. He thinks what he has to do: Avenge the world as a result of his sufferings. In some cases, he first kills most of his family, especially his parents because they have the power to stop him. Then, he grabs his weapons and takes one last drive in his car. He reaches the school, grabs his weapons,  and kills his enemies or at least, random people. Once he feel satisfied or hears about the police and SWAT teams, he finishes his life in a terrible way by pointing the gun to his head and triggers. It’s the end of yet another shooting.

How long will it take until something is actually done?  Every week as I said earlier, there has been 37 shootings this year and 28 last year. The number of school shootings are rising in an alarming, dangerous ways. Whoever can change this (Obama, the Senators, the Congress?) should have done something by now. I thought we would have something done by now after 20 little kids died in one of the biggest school massacres in history. I thought there would be like a gun ban or limitation and security, being required in all schools by now. But, apparently the 74 school shootings is telling me that nothing has changed. How long will it take for these people to do something? Until even more kids die?

It also breaks my heart that many kids’ innocence are fading because of these shootings. When I was a little kid, we didn’t have to worry about shootings. Instead of worrying about seeing a person with a gun, we would worry about math tests, missing That’s So Raven, or our own drama with our friends. Now, it has gotten to some point that there are shooting drills at school. The next thing you’ll know, it’ll be required for kids to bring their own weapons for protection (I’m being sarcastic).

Additionally, I noticed that a lot of these shooters already have weapons from their families. First, why would their parents even have them? And most importantly, why would their parents keep them if their child is acting really violent? If this is the case, take them away and get rid of them. No wonder why he’s so tempted to kill people. He’s surrounded by guns.

Lastly, why do you have to kill people if you hate the world? If you’re going to commit suicide (PLEASE DON’T KILL YOURSELVES, BY THE WAY!), why take it out on everyone and even your enemies? Where will murder get you? Nowhere and innocent people will have to pay for your mistakes and sufferings. People are going to miss falling in love, getting married and starting a families, getting their dream job, seeing the world etc. because of a selfish monster decided “Hey, if I’m suffering, so will other people.”

What are the results of shootings in general, besides people losing their lives? Heartbroken parents (or wife/husband and kids) of the victims having to bury their beloved with grieving grandparents, siblings, cousins etc. crying beside them, devasted friends making tributes for their buddy, a shaken up community with people who are terrified to enter the ruined place, and the family of the shooter who is in beyond shocked that their own would something so evil. With all of them, asking one question: “Why?

So, to the people or the person who has the power to limit these shootings, please prevent more shootings and have more effort to do something. You have the power to change these, but it looks like you’re making little to no effort to save hundreds of lives. To quote The Lorax, “Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It’s not.”


Cooke, Charles. “Lying About School Shootings.” . National Review, 11 June 2014. Web. 23 June 2014. <;.

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